Many families wonder what to expect with sleep support. I wanted to put together a quick list of things that you may not know about the sleep support that I offer!
1. Video Chats
Yes, you read that plural right, often we have 2-3 throughout our time working together. I like to do a meet and greet call initially, this typically lasts 15-20 minutes. After this call I send the intake via email and we schedule our next call. I call this one, our Sleep Education call. During this 60-90 minute call we go over the intake, co-create goals for our time together. During the 1 month package sometimes we schedule another call 2-3 weeks in, I find this is a great time to go over changes and further education if necessary!
2. Sleep Education
You will learn all about normal infant/toddler sleep. As a nurse it is crucial that I provide families with up to date and evidence based information to guide their families to sleep. This education piece is huge, understanding developmentally appropriate sleep empowers parents to make the right decisions when guiding their baby towards sleep goals. During this sleep education call, you never have to take notes. I send everything we discussed and much more to you after our call!
3. Daily chats
We talk via email, every day of the week, sometimes 2-3 times each day, especially if we are working on tweaking naps and wake windows! I also ensure families are aware that I am available on weekends should any further questions come up.
4. Sometimes we talk about Sleep Training
Many families have questions about sleep training, and how my approach is different. I understand some families have used sleep training and that works well for them. I have experience when I tried to use controlled crying with my middle son, and happily share my experience. We discuss why sleep training practices are not sustainable, and why I advocate against separation based approaches. We talk about why adding in meaningful connection and responding to your baby is a sustainable approach to sleep, that my approach will be something you can adapt and apply to babies of all ages and stages!
5. It’s not just about sleep
We talk about all aspects of parenting! I always say, sleep is so much more then sleep, and successful nights are built during the day!
Non sleep related topics include
- Feeding – formula, breast, introducing solids
- Connection and attachment
- Setting healthy boundaries
- How to build your village of support
- Self care for mama (and dad!)
6. No Generic “sleep plan”
During our Sleep Education call I don’t provide a generic “day by day” sleep plan. I prefer to set weekly goals, and provide tailored guidance each day. This daily support is crucial to success as it is customized to your baby’s individual wake windows, sleep totals, feeds, solid intake, developmental milestones, daytime activities and sleep science! These are all important factors to consider, and why I do not use a one size fits all approach. I want to work with a schedule that fits your family. For example, some families prefer a later bedtime due to scheduling. Some families have school drop off and pick ups to consider. Some families have a caretaker in the home. Some families prefer an earlier bedtime. Some families want to bed share for naps, and crib at bed time. Some families prefer a floor bed. Some mamas want to continue bed sharing but want to night wean. I am happy to meet families where they are at and design a plan to keep what they love and change what is no longer working!
7. Wake Windows
Again, I do not encourage families to follow generic wake window charts! Some families request this information, and it can be a good guide as their child grows. Ultimately, your baby will have their own unique wake windows. During our time together we will optimize your child’s wake windows, sleep totals and ideal daily schedule!
8. Streamline Bedtime Routine
This is something that many families feel concerned about, and may be one of the reasons your little one is struggling to fall asleep or stay asleep. I love it when families tell me that they no longer dread their bedtime routine and everyone feels much calmer about the process!
9. We plan for the future
During the end of our work I provide guidance regarding potential upcoming sleep challenges. Many of the techniques that we use during sleep work will carry you throughout the ages and stages with your little one. If there is an expected sleep progression coming, I can provide guidance on how to navigate or other transitions coming up (toddler bed, night weaning, travel etc.). I also encourage families to reach out any time for questions after support has ended. It often only takes a couple emails to get back on track!
10. Sometimes we take breaks
Typically breaks are initiated at my discretion, or other things come up in your life, and I totally get that!
Reason for breaks include:
- Acute teething
- Unplanned travel
- Developmental milestones (crawling is huge)
If we come across a bump in the road, it is not significant a break in work is warranted. It is not beneficial to the child, to facilitate sleep changes at a time when big things are happening!
I hope this helps answer some questions you may have regarding sleep support! As always, I am an open book, always happy to chat sleep, parenting and motherhood. If I didn’t answer one of your questions about sleep support please don’t hesitate to reach out!